The Three C’s: Comparing, Criticizing, Complaining

Comparing, criticizing, and complaining are known as the “Three C’s.”  Can you identify the three C’s in the scripts below?

Script One:  Typical Conversation

Girl, you know that program was totally messed up.  I don’t know why they picked Janice to do it anyway, she has never gotten a single thing right and it’s way out of her league.  You know Mary should have been chosen to do that program. That’s what she does.  I don’t know what was on their minds. We may need to request a meeting to discuss this.

Script two:  Spiritual Conversation


You know, I really appreciated the program today and I am so grateful for the message.  I must admit, it was different from last year.  Mary did such a thorough job in the past and I think she set the bar really high. Janice is really talented baker and seamstress.  I know our leadership is following Divine guidance in their decision making. We’ll just have to adjust. Thank God for the blessing.

Engaging in 3C's conversations can stunt one's personal development and undermine the growth and sustainability of organizations

Comparing is making a distinction between or associating two things in a way that shows the advantages or disadvantages of one thing relative to the other. To compare is a neutral concept that may be helpful when executing at task or doing work.  It is not useful to compare or question some things. For example, to compare if someone is more beautiful or wealthier than you is a waste of energy and it demonstrates low consciousness. .  You are probably upset or dissatisfied with God if you feel you got a bum deal.

Criticizing is to be disapproving or condemning of someone or something.  If you are a master at criticizing then you are a person who focuses on the glass being half-empty rather than the glass being half-full. What a waste of time.  Again, you are may be upset with God because you feel you got a bum deal in some aspect of your life, perhaps you are generally dissatisfied, or you may feel that you deserve more.

Complaining, closely associated with criticizing, is whining, grumbling, or protesting against someone or something.  When people, including this author, find time for complaining as it relates to people and things, it means you are not living life BIG ENOUGH. You have too much idle time on your hands.  Get busy bringing happiness and joy into the world rather than continuing to try to figure out why you do not have it.

Elevated Consciousness

The antidote for being plagued with the 3 C’s is to elevate your consciousness.  When you notice that you are engaging in three C dialog, internally ask for forgiveness then change the subject or thought to something more productive.

Unconditional Universal Service

Also, service is another antidote for the three C’s.  Take on massive projects that will improve your life and the lives of others in a big way.  Even if you feel doubt in yourself and in your skills, move forward anyway and your good intentions and elevated consciousness will attract exactly what you need.  If you do not have a big project of your own, offer your service on projects in collaborations with others.   

If you are serving and are still plagued by the three C’s then you are not serving in the capacity that is right for you. In fact, you could be losing virtue by continuing to do so.  Get off that project immediately and go and find a way to serve that brings joy to your heart and to the hearts of others.

Work on earth but keep your thoughts and intentions connected in heaven!

Why Do Healers Get Sick?

 

Why Do Healers Get Sick?

If you are like me, at some point in your life, you have had a friend who was always unhappy and who always had problems that they needed to talk about.  They were insecure, often negative in their point of view, they repeatedly made bad decisions, and more.  They rarely ever took your advice; they only needed a sounding board.  Well, what the heck!  It never failed, by the end of the conversation, you ended up feeling drained and they ended up feeling much better. After a while you started noticing the pattern, but it was hard to break the routine, because you felt bad about not helping out a friend in need or you became addicted to being the confidant: the counselor. Eventually though, you started avoiding their phone calls.  They were too needy and you knew you are going feel bad or drained by the end of the conversation. We refer to those type of needy persons as an energy vampires.  In the same way a vampire would drain your body of blood, they take your energy. Well, a similar phenomenon happens with healers.   

My definition of a healer:

First, I will give my definition of a healer.  A healer is someone who has deep caring and compassion, who seeks to heal or alleviate the suffering of others either directly or by their creative work.  For example, Ministers, Pastors, Soul Healers, Energy Healers, Social Workers, Psychologists, Physiatrists, Therapists, Life Coaches, artists of various disciplines, teachers, and even very sensitive persons, albeit unknowingly.  

When healers provide service, we sometimes unknowing get entangled in the conditions of others. In trying to help, if we are not careful, we can open up a channel of energy exchange.  No matter how “protected” we think we are, once we tap into our own heart felt emotions and desire to help, the channel is established and energy flows from one to the other.   

The chest area, also called the heart chakra, houses our emotions.  When we open up with compassion to empathize with others, we may actually feel their grief, sadness, anxiety, etc. In doing so, even if only for a few seconds, we unknowingly drop to a point of low resistance and we become perfect conduits of energy transfer.  It is very interesting that a number of healers themselves from suffer depression, anxiety, and even heart attacks. Several famous ones have suffered from or died of heart attacks (or strokes). It is almost impossible for a caring compassionate person to listen to someone’s story and not be touched.  It is not uncommon for healers to have various energetic aspects or conditions picked up from different people affecting their bodies physically, mentally, or emotionally at any given time; depending on how much healing work they do.  Have you been feeling a little scattered, anxious, or sick for no reason lately? 

How can we prevent this from happening? 

We can prevent this from happening by being neutral in our emotions, especially when providing a service. Do your best to listen objectively and to have no attachment to the outcome.  You provide the service, but you cannot control of the out.

In addition, follow this one minute cleansing process:

• Before starting your work with the client clear yourself and them of all mind chatter and all emotions.

Close your eyes and imagine Divine Source light coming into your crowns (the top of the head), flushing all emotions and mental activity down through your body and out of your fingertips; and down through the bottom of your feet.  Removing all excess chaotic energy, toxins, and mind chatter down, down, down, and out… into mother earth.  Notice feeling more grounded. Do this several times if necessary.  Give thanks and gratitude to God.

• Repeat this process after the session has ended.

Try this and you will be glad you did. You will definitely notice a difference right away.